As I get older and closer to having children of my own, I find myself looking back on my child hood. I see some of the kids that I give lessons to and I think “what was I doing at that age?”. A lot of the kids that come into get baseball lessons have great Dads. I also have a great Dad, but my Dad was not a baseball dad.
My Dad, also John Madden, was a football player. No, not that football player. He was a running back for his football team in high school. From what I hear he was pretty good. In fact, we used to make fun of him and call him Al Bundy because he always talked about the time he scored 4 touchdowns in one game. Still, whenever I meet one of his old friends they call him “Juice”. I guess that’s what they called him back when OJ was just a great running back and not what we think of him as today.
As good as my Dad was in football, he didn’t get to play in college or the pros. He and my Mom were married young and had me soon after. So, because of that, he had to go to work.
Just as he was new to being a Dad (I was the first child), he was new to the game of baseball. I’m not even sure if he ever played in a real game. So when I started playing baseball, he didn’t have much to teach me…or so he thought. My Dad was very influential in my baseball career! The following is what my non-baseball Dad taught me about Baseball.
I remember having this little red toy box. I remember it not because my toys were stored there, but because that was the box I would jump over. My dad was always in great shape and one of the things he always did was plyometrics. I think he was doing plyometrics before they were even a thing. I started out doing side to side jumps and front to back jumps over that little toy box. When I got a little older (like 10 or 11), I remember he gave me his Herschel Walker’s Training Book that had a bunch of exercises that you could do in your house or back yard. I remember doing a lot of these exercises for the next few years. We even had a tire that I could pull with a strap that went around my waist. We did some push ups and a lot of jumps. I remember jumping a lot.
I really believe that having this influence early in my life taught me how to stay light on my feet and be able to move quickly.
I also remember it being fun. It was never like a mandatory workout. It was just working out because that’s what we did and it was fun.
As I got older and grew a little bit (a lot – I was 6’4 in the 7th grade), my dad bought me a weight set. I remember going shopping for my first weight set. I was excited. I think I was excited about all this stuff because that is what my dad did. He always worked out and was always in shape. So, he never made me workout, but it was fun for me to because that’s what my dad did.
I started with a bench, a barbell, a curl bar, and some dumbbells. I think I had 185 lbs total but that was way more than enough at that time in my life.
I had the weight bench in the middle of my room and would lift weights whenever I could. He taught me the proper form and told me all he knew about weight lifting. Again, it was nothing about baseball, but I really think this early influence with weights helped me tremendously in my baseball career and overall development.
When I got into high school the weight bench wasn’t enough. He got me a gym membership to his gym. I remember when he taught me how to do squats. Within a few months I was squatting what he was squatting. I think it was 315 lbs at the time. I remember thinking I was a big dogg then!
Remember the football game that my dad scored 4 touchdowns in? Well, he always said that the night before that game that he dreamed he was going to score those 4 touchdowns. He said he was able to see the team that he was playing and actually visualize the runs that he made that scored the touchdowns. He always preached that if you can make yourself visualize before the game, it will come true. I used to lay down before the games on my back and imagine striking out the batters and getting base hits. A lot of the time it worked. I continued this visualization from Little League, all the way through my professional baseball career.
My dad always told me I was the best. Now, he didn’t make excuses if I didn’t do well in a game, but he would always highlight the bright spots, even in a bad
game. I really built up a lot of confidence this way. I thought I was the best thing around. I believed that I could do anything and beat anyone in the game of baseball.
I really think that to be a top level athlete, you have to truly believe that you are the best. There are no professional baseball players who don’t believe in themselves, let’s just put it that way. My dad did a good job of making me feel like I was the man!
One of the only times that I ever saw my dad playing on a baseball game was for a charity event at our local baseball fields. I forget what it was for but I remember him hitting the ball and running around the bases as fast as he could. The mascot was on second base, but by the time my dad got to third base he had caught up to the mascot.
The play was going to be close at home, so my dad ended up running over the mascot to get safe at home.
This was the first time I saw him on a field and being competitive. But just like everything else, he showed me how to do it by example. He joked, as did everyone else (including the mascot), after the fact, but while he was in there, he was playing hard and I was always learning by example!
Mirror the best
Although he didn’t know much about baseball, he was always reading and learning. He would never give me direct advice about baseball, but I remember a bunch of times when I would come home and find a magazine article or a news article about some of the best players in the game and how they do what they do. It was either exercise routines or articles talking about mechanics, but they were always great articles.
He never made me read them. He just put them there so I would see them. I did always read them though and I always learned something from them. Although we never watched baseball a lot, I did have some role models in the game to look up to through the articles that he showed me.
How to be tall
My dad is not very tall (5’10”) and neither is my mom (5’5″) but when I turned out to be tall (6’4″) it was no surprise. From when I was very young my dad told me stories about Michael Jordan and how he was cut from his high school basketball team because he was too short.
He told me that Michael wanted to grow so bad that he would hang upside down and think about getting taller. I wanted the same thing so my dad went out and bought gravity boots. We would take turns hanging upside down from our attic hatch using my barbell as the limb. I don’t know if that is the reason that I turned out so tall, but I’m sure it didn’t hurt. It was just another example of him teaching me that if you believe you can do something, you can!
It’s only a game
We never HAD to practice. Instead my dad would ask me if I wanted to go play a game. Our favorite game was “errors”. We would throw a ball off of a wall and would have to field it without making an error. The person with the least amount of errors would win. We would play this for hours. Looking back I realized that this way of practicing was great. It helped build my competitiveness because I wanted to beat my dad, it worked on the physical aspect of fielding, and it showed me that it’s a lot more fun when you approach it like a game.
I never took the game of baseball too serious. It was always fun for me and I think my dad had a big part in my views on baseball. I remember some of our extra practices were just to see how far we could hit the ball or what new pitch we could invent. It was never very serious.
You can be whatever you want to be
My dad was always telling me that I could be whatever I want to be. I always wanted to be a professional basketball player and a professional baseball player. In high school I realized that basketball probably wasn’t going to work out because averaging 2.2 points a game doesn’t get you a hole lot of looks from colleges. But I did always believe that I could be a professional baseball player. Not only did I believe, I knew it would happen because my dad said it would. I was not a dream in my head. It was a reality. It was always “when I’m a professional baseball player” and not “if”.
I remember always wanting to play for the New York Mets ever since I was a little kid. Imagine the odds of not only getting the opportunity to play professional baseball, but playing for the one of 32 teams that you wanted to play for since you were little. I guess it’s true that you can be whatever you want to be.
What I am going to teach my kid about baseball…
I don’t know if my future son is going to be a baseball player. But whatever he is or wants to be I hope that I can be as big of an influence in his life as my dad is in mine. I know one thing, I’m going to have that little snot nose jumping over his toy box by his 4th birthday! You can bet that!
P.S. I have a great Mom too! But that’s a whole nother article (coming soon). I love you Mom!
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I blocked for your dad when he got those 4 touchdowns!
Tell your dad i said hello!
I remember your name from some of the stories I hear. I just got off the phone with Marty Corcoran and he said it was actually 5 touchdowns in that game. What do you remember? Thanks for commenting!
I believe it was 4 touchdowns that your dad scored, but either way it was a memorable game. Marty probably has a better memory than I
You know with the size of that head much more room to remember things!
Ps my wife flossie says hello, we actually saw you play in high school when were visiting your parents.
Please tell your Dad that Wayne Balle says hello. I grew up with both him and your Mom in Edgewater and no, he was not a baseball player!!! LOL Nor was I a football player. I was a pretty good baseball player back in the day and had tryouts with the Yankees and Mets back in 1999 and now have a 14 year old son that has had a ball and glove in his hand since he was 2. He starts attending high school at St Joe’s Regional in Montvale, NJ next year and hoping that he has a good summer of ball to get him ready for high school.
I am friends with your Mom on FB but have not seen your Dad in probably 30 years or so, please give my regards, we were pretty tight at one point, always a good guy!!!
I saw my mother yesterday and she said hi. When I see my Dad I will tell him you said hello. Good Luck to your son next year in high school baseball. If you guys need any help baseball related let me know. There’s a bunch of baseball information on my other website John Madden Baseball that you might find useful. Thanks for the comment!
I loved reading this! and what a tribute to your dad! When you have children, you will be a great dad because you have patience and your heart overflows with love! Hopefully your article will help those many dad’s out there who are too over-the-top with their sons and make them eat and sleep baseball….you are right….it was always about having fun and it still is!!!
That’s cause I have a good Mom too 🙂
This is awesome. I am lucky enough to have a dad who played high school baseball and has coached ever since, but it still doesn’t change how relatable this article is. Looking back on it, my dad has been a bigger part of my baseball career than I realized, even if he wasn’t always the one coaching me. I smiled more than a few times reading this as I could visualize a couple of very similar moments from my childhood, and I just wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed it
Awesome Grant! It sounds like you have a great Dad. Do you have any of your own?
site looks great!!
Thank you very much Jim!
What a great article , I needed that.Thanks
Sweet article, little John!
Great article and tribute to your dad and other dads who are there for their sons; and now you have the same opportunity to bless your little one!
Great article. Really hits home and keeps things in perspective!
Great article. I am from San Diego and a Big Padres Fan. My son just turned 13 and has started to pitch for his club team. What do you think about him doing pilates for his flexibility and core development ?
Thanks Brent! I’ve never done Pilates consistently myself so I couldn’t say for sure, but from what I have experienced with it, I don’t see how it would hurt. Good luck to you both and let me know if you have any more questions. Thanks again.
Sorry only thing I know about Baseball is from watching my Pirates back home. I just ordered from your site and enjoyed reading your story.
Hi Cindy, thank you so much for the support! Let me know if there is anything else I can help you with.
Hello, my name is Ray,
First time on this site..looks great! I’m trying to find some good tools/drills to use to practice with my 8 year old. Him and I both share a huge love for this game and we are looking into some added help for improvement. Thanks for the free info!
Hello Ray! I appreciate that! How are you and your son doing? Were you able to find some good drills for him? If you haven’t already, you may want to check out my YouTube channel as I’ve got a bunch of info there as well. Thanks again Ray!
Great article and true respect for your dad…my son Mason is now a junior in HS and has played/started since he was a freshman and plays travel ball. Now he is starting the recruiting phase and it is super competitive…He has received some offers. I have been sending/forwarding him your videos and articles, sort of like your dad did back in the day. I just wanted to say thank you for all the helpful information you put out there.
Hey Steve, thanks so much! That is an exciting time for baseball. Seeing as it took me a while to respond to your comment, how has this process moved along for you guys? I hope all is well and wishing you both the best of luck!
Great site John and loved the article on your Dad. Made me think of what a great Dad I have and how he has influenced me. Many similarities! Thanks for making me think of him! Found your site because i coach some little league teams and with a couple of other little league coaches are starting a new non-profit baseball club and was looking for articles on more practice tips, drills and what I needed to know to start a a new club. I look forward to getting more tips and loved your pitching video on the inverted W! Unfortunately, i did not see a comment from your high school buddy about that night!
Thanks Lewis! How is the baseball club going so far? Yeh I think he may still be hurting from that night. LOL
Thanks John, great article!
I’m a non-baseball dad and we’ve recently discovered that my son, turning 7, loves baseball. This is his first season, he started in MP, and is doing great! I coach his soccer and basketball teams, mainly to lighten up the coaching compared to the other high intensity coaches, trying to keep it fun… but baseball is a new world for me, for us. Luckily, we landed in a team with cool coaches (volunteers).
This is exactly the kind of article that I’ve been looking for and I thank you for putting it out there, for sharing a real life role model, probably a bit flawed like all of us, but with great intentions. Now we’ll look for the article about mom.
Great website, and thanks for posting the videos. We’ll be visiting more frequently as my son grows into the skills and positions.
Thanks Mr. Mendoza. I’m glad you are on a good team with good coaches and hopefully parents too. That makes a big difference. I’m sure you know that from the other sports teams. But it can get ugly in baseball sometimes. You’ve got the right attitude, keep it fun, and do what you can. I’m sure you are his hero no matter what. I’m here if you need me. Thanks again.
Want to say thanks for some of the great videos you have up. I’m tony and I have a 12 year old son who plays competitive travel ball. One question regarding “intent” maybe you can help with. When we work just him and I he follows good technique and has good velocity (although it could improve). When he pitches in a game he shortens everything up focusing much more on throwing strikes and if he’s not keeping the ball down he gets hit pretty hard. When I talked to him about it he said it’s different in a game – so he has this fear of being wild/losing command or hitting someone. Any advice on how to overcome this? He also throws a solid change when we practice but he has overthrown it in a game and left it up and it got tagged so he’s again afraid of the results.
One other thing is that for the first time in his short career he’s had bicep pain after about 20/30 competitive pitches for about 3 games. He took about 10 days of very light throwing to let him rest and he pitched 45 competitive pitches without issue his last time out. Could that perhaps be contributed to changes in his body as he’s growing?
Again thanks for the videos
Hey Tony, this is a great question because it is something that I struggled with as well. My advice may not be the best but what worked for me was to throw the absolute piss out of the first pitch. When I realized I didn’t airmail it or hit the batter I immediately felt better. For me, getting that first pitch with intent out of the way is the hardest and then I was able to settle in and throw hard the rest of my appearance. As for the bicep, could be bicep tendinitis. If it’s gone away I wouldn’t worry about it too much, just make sure that he’s prepared for that amount of throwing next time. It could also very well be him growing. But I’m not a doctor so if it comes back I’d definitely go get him checked out just to be safe. Thanks. Let me know how that works for him and tell him I say hi!